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Sometimes you have to call a spade a spade to get it back from your neighbour.

Sometimes, to avoid sounding mean or looking bad, we try all sorts of methods to twist and turn while beating around the bush to hint someone about something instead of getting straight to the point.

Isn’t it common that if one has lent a spade to his neighbour and wanted it back, he first goes on a journey on giving clues in the hope that he would get the meaning behind. He might say something like,

“Gosh, it’s a mighty fine day to do some gardening.” or “How’s your gardening going?”

If the neighbour doesn’t get the hint and the person doesn’t get his spade back, that’s when bad blood is often created unnecessarily. Sometimes, it’s easier and necessary to get straight to the point but please be reminded to be tactful about it. We most definitely don’t want to sound like they have didn’t gave it back to us on purpose. Let’s compare.

“Can I have my spade back?” or would you rather say, “I might need my tools because I am doing some gardening in a moment’s time. Do you mind if I drop by to get the spade back now?”

Though it’s often necessary to call a spade a spade, it is always good to mind your manners and get things done as soon as possible. Good manners begets good manners, delay offers alternatives.

“No worries, I’ll bring your spade over right now,” your neighbour said with a smile.